Rules of Trust

   I start with a quote as premise for my argument, which we hear many times. 

   'I love him/her, but I don't trust him/her.'
   Can you really love someone who you don't trust? If you believe what you say you are delusional, because where there is no trust love cannot enter.
   Here is the real deal. Some find untrustworthy people attractive, intriguing and mysterious and this is exactly some find to be irresistible. These relationships, are short, stormy and very painful. At the end we realize it wasn't at all love. Regretfully...some could last for a lifetime.
   But how do we know what we got is hell? Because life without love is hell! I have to emphasize that trust is genderless and the same rules apply to any kind of relationships, be it friends, business, life partners, or complete strangers! In order to recognize trust, look for its signs.
   I think, the basic prerequisite to start a lasting relationship is mutual respect. Respect is always given unconditionally no matter of the situation, or person, or the stage your relationship is in. You recognize respect by the way someone listens to what you say, and you do the same in return. Because you speak your mind, will and desire, and that is what is important to you.
  To be listened to, is a good start for achieving trust. You don't get a listening ear, just turn your back and walk away...unless you believe that you can love a person who does not respect you.
   On the other hand not demanding respect may just be a typical case of self-doubt. Perhaps you may not believe in your own will or righteousness, you lost trust in yourself and thus fail to demand it from others. 
   Listen to, respect and build trust in yourself so you learn how to trust and love others, as life intended you to do. How you may ask? It is simple, do as you say, and say as you do, without fail. And don't forget, trust is offered in advance to anyone and not something to be earned. So open your eyes to see the signs! Realize that there are no little lies or big lies. They are just lies! As there are no levels of love! When you trust you can love. When you don't trust, you fool yourself!
   Trust me, there is no relationship, or love without trust!

February 13, 2017